Saturday
Knock You Down
So we all have to go through it, Yes the whole breaking up and moving on period of our lives. The question is how do you get over a broken heart. Now it is known that females and males go about this differently but there are something that are the same. So here is LovHer Steps for Getting Over a Broken Heart
2. Day four - Day six focus on getting rid of anything that may reminds you of him/her. That includes pictures, teddy bears, and little things like movie or concert ticket stubs (clothing and jewelry are optional).
3. Day seven - Day nine get out the house. Hang out with friends. Find a new hobby. Find something to do to replace all of that extra energy and time that you will have (sometimes its okay if you go out on dates, get under someone new, but make sure if they are rebound that you let them know your intentions).
4. Day ten you should be fine at this point enjoy all the new things and forgive your past so you can move on cleanly. Not forgiving means that the past will still have some kind of hold on you (you don't want that) so forgive so you can move on. Look at your past relationship as a lesson learned and take from it what you know not to do or look for in your future.
NOTE: That the time period may chance for some, so take your time in each step. Go at your own pace.
Steps for Getting Over a Broken Heart
1. Day one - Day three its okay to be upset (cry even for some people). You should be around people who care about. Talk with really good friends (renting is really good as well).
3. Day seven - Day nine get out the house. Hang out with friends. Find a new hobby. Find something to do to replace all of that extra energy and time that you will have (sometimes its okay if you go out on dates, get under someone new, but make sure if they are rebound that you let them know your intentions).
4. Day ten you should be fine at this point enjoy all the new things and forgive your past so you can move on cleanly. Not forgiving means that the past will still have some kind of hold on you (you don't want that) so forgive so you can move on. Look at your past relationship as a lesson learned and take from it what you know not to do or look for in your future.
NOTE: That the time period may chance for some, so take your time in each step. Go at your own pace.
Friday
What are men really thinking????
So this is about the things us females want to know about the opposite sex and what some men may think. Now men feel free to comment on whether you agree or disagree with the following:
NOTE: These responses are from the men (my older brothers) in my life and may not fit every man.
1. When a female tells a male "Nothing's wrong, I'm fine" why do they never believe me:
Men do not believe women when they say nothing is wrong because those words are what some men may call red flag words. Usually women use these words when something is wrong or when they want to be bothered.
2. Do guys like buy feminine products for their lady friend:
Most men are somewhat uncomfortable with it but will buy them for her if she ask. But please make sure females before you ask that you have that type of relationship with that man.
3.What spot on a males body turns him on the most:
The ears are the best spot to get a mans blood pumping.
4. What do men like more nature look or make-up:
Men are alright with make-up but they like the natural look more so if you do wear make-up make it look as natural as possible.
5. What do men want to hear after sex:
Men usually do not want to hear a lot but here are some words that will want to hear:
NOTE: These responses are from the men (my older brothers) in my life and may not fit every man.
1. When a female tells a male "Nothing's wrong, I'm fine" why do they never believe me:
Men do not believe women when they say nothing is wrong because those words are what some men may call red flag words. Usually women use these words when something is wrong or when they want to be bothered.
2. Do guys like buy feminine products for their lady friend:
Most men are somewhat uncomfortable with it but will buy them for her if she ask. But please make sure females before you ask that you have that type of relationship with that man.
3.What spot on a males body turns him on the most:
The ears are the best spot to get a mans blood pumping.
4. What do men like more nature look or make-up:
Men are alright with make-up but they like the natural look more so if you do wear make-up make it look as natural as possible.
5. What do men want to hear after sex:
Men usually do not want to hear a lot but here are some words that will want to hear:
WOW
AMAZING
WONDERFUL
&
CAN WE DO THAT AGAIN
So women if you have more questions and men if you have different responses please comment and share your thoughts
Thursday
Lovers and Friends
When is it alright for a friend to become a friend with benefits?
How do you know if you want this man or women to be more than just a friend? This is hard to decide and everyone is different when it comes to them. So here is my story: My ex and I had just broken up and I was all upset like most females are who has put time into a relationship just so the man can cheat...... Sorry back to my story... So I met him during spring semester. I was walking in my building when he stopped me asked me my name and I told him. We then began talking and he proceeded to follow me to the computer lab when we then became facebook friends. We talked as friends for about a month or so. We would hangout as friends but nothing serious. Then one day we was talking on the phone and after we got off I for some reason could not stop smiling. I began to think about how we connected as friends and started to see him as a cutie. So the next time we went out I went for it!!! I was putting on the girlie charm. I started flirting and feeling on him and he responded just how I wanted. We went back to his place and I kissed him and after that you all know what happen, no need for more details.... But it was fun to have a friend I could hang out with and to have sex with and we both was on the same page as far as we did not want to go any further than that in this type of relationship. My question to my readers is when is it alright to make a friend a lover and how would you ended it if it gets too far?
Does She Want to Have SEX With You?????
Believe or not men MOST women know if they want to have sex with you by the end of the first date....
Now how do you know if you are one of those men? Please do NOT ask. A female has subtle way of showing men that they want them. Please do not act on this on the first date because she could be just acting nice to get the date over with. Let her start. She may sometimes stare at you in the eyes. She may also get a little touchy, meaning she may want to hold or keep feeling your hand. She may brush up against your leg a few times on the second or third date. She may sometime rub your face or cup it. But the best way to tell is by the way she kisses you.
The way a female kisses can tell a person a lot about how she feels and if she wants to keep perusing anything further with that person. If she is kissing you with closed mouth, meaning pecks, she is really not feeling and you are not the one she want so sorry. Now if she is giving you a little open mouth but no tongue you maybe the one but she is still not too sure about you at that moment. Now if she is open mouth and tongue play with some slight passion in the kiss she wants you. Now still at this point let her make the first move.
Now how do you know if you are one of those men? Please do NOT ask. A female has subtle way of showing men that they want them. Please do not act on this on the first date because she could be just acting nice to get the date over with. Let her start. She may sometimes stare at you in the eyes. She may also get a little touchy, meaning she may want to hold or keep feeling your hand. She may brush up against your leg a few times on the second or third date. She may sometime rub your face or cup it. But the best way to tell is by the way she kisses you.
The way a female kisses can tell a person a lot about how she feels and if she wants to keep perusing anything further with that person. If she is kissing you with closed mouth, meaning pecks, she is really not feeling and you are not the one she want so sorry. Now if she is giving you a little open mouth but no tongue you maybe the one but she is still not too sure about you at that moment. Now if she is open mouth and tongue play with some slight passion in the kiss she wants you. Now still at this point let her make the first move.
Dating 101
See dating for women is so different for men. See for women we do this per-date. Now per-date is when most women takes the time to look good for the man. Meaning they sometimes do something new with their hair, wear tight fitting clothes, and put on make up. It takes time men for women to look as good as you want them to men. So no complaining about she took to long to get dress. Nope none of that!!! Just enjoy the fact that she didn't come out the house in sweats and a t-shirt. Now off to the date men this is you Dating 101- What not to do.
-Do Not talk about your EX girlfriend. - We don't care about her.
-Do Not talk with food in your mouth. - That's just nasty.
-Do Not stare at her chest when she is talking to you. - Her eyes are on her head not chest.
-Do Not stare at her mouth when she is talking to you. - Look in the eyes and focus on the conversation. We like feed back.
-Do Not brag about what you have - This tip can be very beneficial to you as well men. You know you do not want a girl who is only after your money.
-Do Not try to kiss her. - If she wants a kiss she will tell you.
-Do Not split the bill. - You asked her out you pay simple.
-Do Not think you are getting sex after dinner. - That means no driving to you place unless she says otherwise.
I know there maybe a lot of other things that this list may be missing so post what you do not want to see or happen on a first date.
-Do Not talk about your EX girlfriend. - We don't care about her.
-Do Not talk with food in your mouth. - That's just nasty.
-Do Not stare at her chest when she is talking to you. - Her eyes are on her head not chest.
-Do Not stare at her mouth when she is talking to you. - Look in the eyes and focus on the conversation. We like feed back.
-Do Not brag about what you have - This tip can be very beneficial to you as well men. You know you do not want a girl who is only after your money.
-Do Not try to kiss her. - If she wants a kiss she will tell you.
-Do Not split the bill. - You asked her out you pay simple.
-Do Not think you are getting sex after dinner. - That means no driving to you place unless she says otherwise.
I know there maybe a lot of other things that this list may be missing so post what you do not want to see or happen on a first date.
What's this about????
4 the Lovers and Friends is a blog that will be touching on all bases of dating, relationship, and sex for the young but mature adult. So feel free to comment, leave questions, and answer question when ever you want. Give me feed back tell me what you want to know. And yes this is for fun. So Enjoy!!!
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